Part 4 in a series on purity
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;”
If you have a pure heart, it will show forth in your conversation, (lifestyle) in the way you dress, walk and talk. Likewise, if your heart is corrupt, corrupted by this world or the deceitfulness of your own heart, it will come out in your actions.
“ Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.”
1 Peter 2:11,12
Do we dress, walk, talk and flirt like the daughters (and wives) of the heathen? It is a war! Modesty is a war! Purity is a war! Do you war with your spirit or against your flesh? Lord help us!
Are you dressing for the approval of man or God? Is your goal to impress others or to be pleasing to God and glorify Him? Be aware of where others’ eyes may be drawn. You want them to look at your face, not other parts of your body, while you are speaking with them.
“As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance: But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.”
Do your clothes say “I am a daughter of the most Holy God” or “I am a daughter of this wicked generation.”?
Men tend to sin by lusting after women, while women tend to sin by lusting to be lusted after. Is the way you dress or walk suggestive or discreet? If we publicly (meaning in front of ANYONE but our husband) expose our bodies, wear clothing, or walk in a way that accentuates our bodies or private areas, are we being discreet?
“As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.”
You may be “cute”, but if you are not discreet, your like a big, stinky, filthy, disgusting, pig with a gold ring in your snout! Bend over and pick up a book. What do people behind you see? How about those in front of you?
Modesty is not only about how we dress, it’s also about how we talk and carry ourselves. You can be dressed modestly and still reveal an immodest demeanor.
Have you ever thought about what you look like from behind? Ask your mother or a wise female friend to stand behind you and watch you walk. Does she think you swing your hips or swagger? This is very suggestive and seductive, NOT at all discreet. The exaggerated swing of the hips speaks louder than a long skirt.
“[Swaggering] said ‘Look at me!’ In fact, it distinctly invited, ‘Look at my tail feathers!’” –Raising Maidens of Virtue Pg. 133
When you walk up a flight of stairs, what do those behind you, or at the bottom, see?
And then there is speech!
“Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.”
Cutting words are like a poisoness dagger. Careless or cruel words, apart from the healing of the Lord, can leave scars forever!
“If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.”
The unbridled tongue is a VERY serious matter! Impurity of speech reveals a defiled heart.
“Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.”
Is your tongue set on fire of hell? Is a tongue that is set on fire of hell pure? OF COURSE NOT! This little member reveals a lot about the state of our hearts in regards to the Lord. What does your tongue reveal?
An indiscreet, impure, heart of a woman causes other to want to “run for the hills”! Are you one of those women? Do you always have to talk? Give your opinion? Give “innocent” little suggestions? Etc.?
“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”
Ask yourself “Who am I wearing this for and why?” “Why am I walking like I do?” “What does my speech reveal?”
Does your presence in a room turn heads and say “look at me!” or convict and turn hearts in obedience to Christ, bringing honour to your earthly father and husband, while glorifying your Heavenly Father and Husband?!
Do not let your wicked heart deceive you, and deafen your ears to the Spirit’s convicting pricks!