Friday, August 24, 2012

18th C of Character

 

Confident

• Bold courage to do anything needed or wanted.
• The righteous are bold as a lion (Proverbs 28:1). Are you?
• What kind of man sees lions (Proverbs 22:13; 26:13)?
• Not self-confidence … but godly-confidence!
• David ran thru a troop and leaped a wall. How?
• The fear of man brings a snare … so trust God!
• If Jesus is with us, we may boldly say … (Hebrews 13:6).
• Do you know that guilt will remove manhood?
• Do your reasonable best, trust God for the rest.
• Nothing is too hard for Him: submit plans to Him.

 

“The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.”

Proverbs 28:1

“The slothful man saith, There is a lion without, I shall be slain in the streets.”

Proverbs 22:13

“The slothful man saith, There is a lion in the way; a lion is in the streets.”

Proverbs 26:13

“So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

Hebrews 13:6

Thursday, August 23, 2012

17thC of Character

 

Communicative

  • Verbally open, honest, thorough, and helpful.
  • The "strong, silent type" cannot be a great saint.
  • Silence abuses your wife and children (Colossians 3:21).
  • True friends are open and transparent (John 15:15).
  • The most help you can give others is by your lips.
  • A good word fitly spoken is beautiful (Proverbs 25:11).
  • Gracious speech is what wins kings (Proverbs 22:11).
  • A good thought not expressed is worthless.
  • A good word makes a heavy heart glad (Proverbs 12:25).
  • Being thankful falls short: you must give thanks.

“ Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”

Colossians 3:21

“Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.”

John 15:11

“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

Proverbs 25:11

“He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the king shall be his friend.”

Proverbs 22:11

“Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: But a good word maketh it glad.”

Proverbs 12:25

Saturday, August 18, 2012

16th C of Character

 

~Conventional

  • Living in a way accepted by most – in most ways.
  • Before thinking outside the box, try inside it!
  • The truth is strange, but Paul gave no offence.
  • Loving others includes seemly conduct (I Corinthians 13:5)!
  • If you like being weird, then limit it to your mind.
  • Convention generally means tested and proven.
  • How do you pick attire, speech, conduct, etc.?
  • The farther away from convention the more risk.
  • The farther away from convention more offence.
  • Christian liberty is true … but wisely restricted.
  • Paul was made all things to all men. (1 Corinthians 9:19-23)
  • Truth is strange enough… We need not add to it.
  • The more outsiders… less or more conventional?
  • It is our duty to avoid offense whenever we can.
  • If throwing out the bathwater… Save the baby!

”Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;”

1 Corinthians 13:5

“For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more. And unto the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might gain the Jews; to them that are under the law, as under the law, that I might gain them that are under the law; To them that are without law, as without law, (being not without law to God, but under the law to Christ,) that I might gain them that are without law. To the weak became I as weak, that I might gain the weak: I am made all things to all men, that I might by all means save some. And this I do for the gospel's sake, that I might be partaker thereof with you.”

1 Corinthians 9:19-23

Friday, August 17, 2012

15th C of Character

 

~Christ-Centered

  • Your life is prioritized and structured around Him!
  • God chose you to conform to His Son (Romans 8:29).
  • Glory in Christ more than anything (Galatians 6:14).
  • God's kingdom is always FIRST in life (Matthew 6:33).
  • Anything detracting or dulling from it is rejected.
  • Do most you meet soon know you are a Christian?
  • If a parent, children soon figure our your zeal.
  • What did Moses lose for the reproach of Christ?
  • What did Paul count everything in his life as?
  • Home, bedroom, auto… Jesus should be Lord!
  • The greatest love is to help others please Christ.
  • Can you remember, “He is Altogether Lovely!”?
  • What is your favourite song? Who is it about?
  • How much is your life like Paul’s? (2 Corinthians  5:14,15)
  • Love those who correct anything offending Him.

“For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.”

Romans 8:29

“But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world.”

Galatians 6:14

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”

Matthew 6:33

“For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead: And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.”

2 Corinthians 5:14,15

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

14th C of Character

 

~Curious

  • Interest in learning the how and why of many things.
  • This is intermeddling with all wisdom. (Proverbs 18:1)
  • A concern is curiosity about doctrine and truth.
  • A good father, unlike David, is curious (1 Kings 1:6)
  • Growth in wisdom requires it, or you get dumber.
  • Prudent men know their industries well (Proverbs 27:23).
  • They go beyond industry to find the best jobs.
  • Good husbands learn women and wife (I Peter 3:7).
  • Wisdom is to be hunted as hid treasure (Proverbs 2:1-5).
  • You can get answers faster today than ever.
  • Do you want to dig into God’s Word for details?
  • Do you pray “Open thou mine eyes...”? (Psalm 119:18)
  • The Eunuch was not content to read the Bible.
  • You are to consider one another to help wisely.
  • All in authority should search out things. (Proverbs 25:2)

“Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with allwisdom.”

Proverbs 18:1

“And his father had not displeased him at any time in saying, Why hast thou done so? and he also was a very goodly man; and his mother bare him after Absalom.”

1 Kings 1:6

“Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds.”

Proverbs 27:23

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

1 Peter 3:7

“My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God.”

Proverbs 2:1-5

“Open thou mine eyes, that I may behold wonderful things out of thy law.”

Psalm 119:18

“It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter.”

Proverbs 25:2

Monday, August 13, 2012

Back to Character…

The 13th C of Character!

Thank you for allowing me to take a tiny break from character to talk about the character of a wife : ) Now let us dive back into the C character traits study together… And our next trait is…

~Childish

  • Humble and simple approach to many things.
  • You must be childish to enter Christ's kingdom.
  • Be childish when it comes to malice (I Corinthians 14:20).
  • Enthusiasm to enjoy the simple things of life.
  • How will you condescend without being childish?
  • Do you eagerly listen to truth like a child to you?
  • Solomon's attitude brought God's great blessing.
  • Our attitude of being babes will bring blessing.
  • Instead of pretences, let us promote innocence.
  • Every family needs some "love and fun." Recall?
  • Are you as humble to correction as a little child?
  • Compared to God, you are dumber than a child.
  • What dulls your zeal? Pretenses? Stoicism?
  • Why do you resist exhortation to joy? Be a child!
  • Are you too grown up to love Abba Father?
“Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men.”

1 Corinthians 14:20

Pretenses: Feigning to be nonchalant or dignified or other excuses to avoid David’s exuberance.

Stoicism: False worship of the “strong, silent” type as having some virtue.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

25 Ways to Communicate Respect

 

~I found the following article on a blog entitled “Loving Life at Home” the author of this article is Jennifer Flanders. She is a wife and a mother of 12. Her words hold the wisdom of experience.

I want to know what my duties as a wife will be before marriage, and am very thankful for godly older women who are Titus 2 women, such as Mrs. Flanders and my own mother, who may impart their wisdom to me. So whether married or single I think this is a good article to read and examine oneself by. Thank you Mrs. Flanders for graciously allowing me to repost your article on my blog!

~ Brytni

Actions speak louder than words. You can say you respect your husband, but he’ll have a hard time believing that unless your behavior backs it up.

What does respectful living look like? Here are 25 ways you can communicate respect to your spouse without uttering a word. If you’ll make it your habit to do these things, the next time you tell your husband how much you respect him, he won’t have to wonder if you really mean it.

  1. Choose Joy
    It’s true: A happy wife makes a happy life. Please don’t use moodiness as an attempt to manipulate your man, but in all things rejoice, because that’s the right thing to do. (1 Thessaonians 5:16;Philippians 4:4)
  2. Honor His Wishes
    Give weight to what your husband thinks is important. Make those things a priority that matter most to him, whether it’s having dinner ready when he gets home from work or keeping the house tidy or limiting computer time. Don’t make him ask twice. (Philippians 2:4)
  3. Give Him Your Undivided Attention
    Yes, I know that women are masters of multi-tasking, but when your husband is speaking to you, make a point to lay other tasks aside, look into his eyes, and listen to what he is saying with the goal of understanding and remembering his words.
  4. Don’t Interrupt
    Have you ever been around a person who won’t let you finish a sentence? That gets old fast. Even if you think you already know what your husband is going to say, allowing him to say it without cutting him off mid-sentence shows both respect and common courtesy.
  5. Emphasize His Good Points
    Sure, he has his faults (as do you), but dwelling on them will only make you (both) miserable. Choose instead to focus on those qualities in your husband that you most admire. (Philippians 4:8)
  6. Pray for Him
    Take your concerns to God. Faithfully lift up your husband in prayer every day, and you will likely notice a transformation not only in him, but in yourself, as well. (Philipians 4:6-7; 1 Thessalonians 5:17)
  7. Don’t Nag
    Your husband is a grown man, so don’t treat him like a two-year-old. Leave room for God to work. You are not the Holy Spirit, so do not try to do His job.
  8. Be Thankful
    Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Don’t take your husband for granted. Be appreciative for everything he does for you, whether big or small. Always say thank you. (1 Thessalonians 5:18; Ephesians 5:20)
  9. Smile at Him
    Smiles spread happiness. Smiles have even been shown to create happiness. Smiles are contagious. And a smile makes any woman more beautiful.
  10. Respond Physically
    Did you know that the way you respond (or don’t respond) to your husband’s romantic overtures has a profound effect on his self-confidence? Don’t slap him away when he tries to hug you or make excuses when he’s in the mood. Your enthusiastic cooperation and reciprocation will not only assure him of your love, but will make him feel well-respected, too. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
  11. Eyes Only for Him
    Don’t compare your husband unfavorably to other men, real or imaginary. It is neither fair nor respectful and will only breed trouble and discontent. Avoid watching movies or reading books that might cause you to stumble in this area, as well. (Psalm 19:14; Proverbs 4:23)
  12. Kiss Him Goodbye
    I once read about a study done in Germany which found that men whose wives kissed them goodbye every morning were more successful than those who weren’t kissed. Success and respect often go hand-in-hand, so be sure to send him off right, and don’t forget to greet him with a kiss when he returns home, for good measure. (2 Corinthians 13:12)
  13. Prepare His Favorite Foods
    Although the rest of the family is not overly-fond of spaghetti, my husband loves it, so I try to make it at least two or three times a month as a way to honor him. Next time you’re planning meals, give special consideration to your husband’s preferences. (Proverbs 31:14-15)
  14. Cherish Togetherness
    I love to sit near my husband, whether at home or away. Our church shares potluck dinners every Sunday afternoon, and although the men and women normally sit separately to visit, I like to position myself close enough to my husband that I can listen to the conversation, as I think everything he says is so interesting. At home, I’ll take my book or handwork to whatever room in the house he’s working in, just to be close to him, because I enjoy his company, even when neither of us is talking.
  15. Don’t Complain
    Nobody wants to be around a whiner or complainer. It is grating on the nerves. Remember the serenity prayer: accept the things you can’t change, courageously change the things you can, seek wisdom to know the difference. (Philippians 2:14)
  16. Resist the Urge to Correct
    I know one wife whose spouse can’t tell a story without her stopping him fifteen times to correct inconsequential details: “It wasn’t Monday evening, it was Monday afternoon…. It wasn’t blue, it was turquoise…. He didn’t ride the bus, he took a shuttle.” Please. Please. Please. Don’t ever do that to your husband — or to anyone else, for that matter! (Proverbs 17:28)
  17. Dress to Please Him
    Take care of your appearance. Choose clothes your husband finds flattering, both in public and around the house.
  18. Keep the House Tidy
    To the best of your abilities, try to maintain a clean and orderly home. Seek to make it a haven of rest for your entire family. (Proverbs 31:27)
  19. Be Content
    Do not pressure your husband to keep up with the Jonses. Take satisfaction in the lifestyle he is able to provide for you. (1 Timothy 6:6-10; Hebrews 13:5)
  20. Take His Advice
    Do not dismiss his opinions lightly, especially when you’ve asked for his counsel in the first place. Make every effort to follow your husband’s advice.
  21. Admire Him
    Voiced compliments and heartfelt praise are always welcome, but you should also make it your habit to just look at your husband in a respectful, appreciative way. Think kind thoughts toward him. He’ll be able to see the admiration in your eyes. (Luke 6:45)
  22. Protect His Name
    Honor your husband in the way you speak of him to family and friends. Guard his reputation and do not let minor disagreements at home cause you to speak ill of him in public. Live in such a way that it will be obvious to others why your husband married you in the first place. (Proverbs 12:4; 22:1)
  23. Forgive His Shortcomings
    Please do not hold grudges against your husband. Do not allow a root of bitterness or resentment find a home in your heart. Forgive your husband freely, as Christ has forgiven you. (Mark 11:25; Matthew 18:21-35)
  24. Don’t Argue
    You are not always right, and you do not always have to have the last word. Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” Be willing to accept the blame. It takes two to argue, so “abandon a quarrel before it breaks out.” (Proverbs 17:14; 21:19; 25:24)
  25. Follow His Lead
    If you want your husband to lead, you must be willing to follow. Neither a body nor a family can function well with two heads. Learn to defer to your husband’s wishes and let final decisions rest with him. (Ephesians 5:22-24)

Proverbs 18:22 tells us, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Do these 25 things consistently, and your husband will never have trouble believing that fact.

 

To see Mrs. Flanders original post click HERE.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

12th C of Character


~Contented
  • Satisfaction with your place and possessions.
  • Contentment is a choice and great gain (I Timothy 6:6).
  • Contentment is a commandment (Hebrews 13:5-6)
  • Discontentment will ruin you as a Christian.
  • Discontentment is lose-lose:  fantasy and reality.
  • The happiest people are the most contented.
  • It does not allow for complaining. (Jude 16)
  • It does not allow for murmuring (1 Corinthians 10:10)
  • God chose your life for His glory and your profit.
  • If walking with God, nothing else matters at all.
  • Discontentment does not allow relaxed pleasure.
  • Discontentment wastes energy, thought, etc.
  • It is a denial of our beloved sovereignty of God.
  • You deserve hell fire – anything else is better.
  • Our things surpass all nations and generations.

“But godliness with contentment is great gain.”
1 Timothy 6:6
“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”
Hebrews 13:5-6
“These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men's persons in admiration because of advantage.”
Jude 16
“Neither murmur ye, as some of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer.”
1 Corinthians 10:10
 
CHALENGE ~ Comment with the things that you have that surpass all nations and generations, then go forth and CHOOSE to be content!
I’ll start:
Vehicles- Including cars, trains and plains etc. We can GO! Now, the place that I am the most thankful to go is the house of the Lord… Sunday when I meet with the Church at St. Louis is the most precious time and glorious spot on earth to be! Our modern convenience of cars allow the who knows how long it would be walk or buggy ride to be a 30 minute drive! Thank you Lord!

P.S. Sorry for taking so long to get this next trait up… My family has had a very busy week+… Thank you to all you who have prayed for us! : )